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The Constancy of Change

Posted on Mar 10, 2016 in Couples Therapy Blog

Change is the one thing we can actually depend on. When we take the time to slow down and notice the nature of the mind, we see clearly that thoughts are coming and going on their own. Change is constant. We have absolutely no control over where the mind goes. This can be very disheartening. Change is also a constant in our lives. We hear or read about dramatic and sudden changes in the lives of others. We keep ourselves chronically busy partly in order to avoid the anxiety that such changes could also happen to us. Is it possible to view change differently? When we fall in love, I think...

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